From Codependency to Inner Strength

I grew up in a toxic environment

A narcissistic mother, a father lost in alcohol. As a child I learned early that love meant scanning, pleasing, disappearing. Codependency was almost inevitable – born from trauma, shaped in a home where safety simply didn’t exist.

That early pain left deep marks. In my teenage years I developed eating disorders that ruled my life for years. They were a way to numb the unbearable feelings of my childhood and the sexual abuse I endured – a way to hold onto control when everything felt unsafe. Later, I attracted narcissistic partners and repeated the same patterns all over again. My system mistook unsafe love for familiarity, and again and again, I lost myself in it.

Until I couldn’t anymore. Broken, exhausted, with the same question echoing in my head for a lifetime: How do I get out of this?

It was at that breaking point that my way back began. Not by pretending to be strong, but by slowly allowing in what I had always avoided. By finally feeling what was truly living inside me. By healing my nervous system, reclaiming my boundaries, and seeing my patterns clearly.

There I discovered the key no training had ever given me: real healing doesn’t come from more knowledge, but from connection. With your body, with your nervous system, with the parts of you that once had to survive.

That is the space I offer today. Not as theory, but as lived experience. Because I know how it feels to lose yourself. And because I know there is a way back – to yourself, to peace, to freedom.

Perhaps you recognise yourself in my words, in different details but with the same emptiness and struggle. If so, know this: you are not alone.

From experience, not theory

I'm not here with a method from a book. What I share is something I've had to live through myself. Because I know how it feels to lose yourself. To search for love and security, and to lose yourself along the way.

Not because I follow one method, but because I have gone through all the layers myself. From surviving to feeling. From adapting to embodying. Everything I now pass on, I have not only learned in studies, but above all through life itself – by falling, breaking, starting over and, layer by layer, coming home to myself.

I have experienced life first-hand. Between trauma and survival. Between hope and loyalty. Always trying to understand what never made sense, yet remaining loyal to those who hurt me. I pleased others. I empathised with them. I cared, adapted, and swallowed my feelings. Until I broke. Until I began to see how deeply those patterns were rooted in my nervous system, my body, my entire being.

Everything I now pass on, I first had to feel for myself. My mission comes not from theory, but from experience. From the desire for truth, for safety, for love. And the way back – to myself.

There is still too little real understanding about codependency. As if it's just about sensitivity or difficulty with boundaries. But anyone who has been there knows that it runs much deeper. It affects your nervous system, your attachment, your identity. It is woven into your body and into the way you have structured your life.

What drives me is making the invisible visible. The pain beneath the pattern. The survival that was once necessary. And above all: the way back to yourself.

I have completed many courses, training programmes and courses in psychology, body-oriented trauma recovery, energy work and coaching. They gave me valuable knowledge and frameworks. But the real change only began when I stopped looking outside myself and dared to feel what was really going on inside me.

Along the way, I discovered something that no course could have taught me: that true healing does not come from knowledge alone, but from connection. With your body, your nervous system, your attachment and the parts of you that were once split off in order to survive. That is where the key lies. Not in theory, but in experience.

What I have developed (and what you'll find with me)

I've turned the key to inner freedom that I found myself into my own carefully structured programme. Not because I needed another method, but because I know what codependency really requires: safety, precision, and working where it matters.

I do not work with fixed protocols or models. No standard methods, no spiritual detours. What I offer is tailored, lived through and precise enough to really shift something.

We work where your system indicates:

• with your nervous system, which can learn from survival to return to rest;
• with your limbic system, so that tension is no longer confused with love;
• with the parts of you that once split off to protect you and now require grounding, recognition and integration.

These parts are not archetypes or concepts, but real, inhabited places in your inner world. They have felt, reacted, made choices and still carry the burden of the past. In our work, these parts will be given space, so that you are no longer guided by old survival mechanisms, but by inner security and mature strength.

We also take your energy into account, not as something vague, but as your inner compass. It shows where tension is stuck, where you are holding yourself back, and where your truth can flow again.