Breaking Free from Codependence

 

Your Questions Answered

For those who sense there’s more to life than pleasing, fixing and surviving

You might sense that this programme touches exactly what you need. Yet at the same time, your body pulls back. It feels like too much. You want to stop, to return to what you know.

That doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It means it’s right.

 

When you’ve spent years living in codependent patterns, your nervous system becomes wired for survival. Always scanning, pleasing, adapting. Connecting to others, even those who hurt you, felt safer than truly connecting to yourself.

That’s why stepping into this kind of work can feel heavier than staying in the familiar. Because your system knows: this time, we’re not going around the pain, we’re going through it.

 

And that’s a big step. But it’s also the way back to yourself. To your body, your truth, your core.

I know what that feels like. Not from books, but because I’ve lived it.

 

For more than 40 years, I lived with codependence. I shaped myself to others, gave too much, looked for safety outside of me. Until I collapsed. Until I had no choice but to return to myself.

That was the start of my real recovery.

 

There is still so much misunderstanding around codependence. As if it’s just emotional dependency or a struggle with boundaries. But anyone who’s been through it knows this goes much deeper.

Codependence isn’t a flaw in your personality. It’s a deeply rooted imprint held in your nervous system, your attachment, your body and your entire sense of self.

 

What drives me today is making the invisible visible. The pain beneath the pattern. The survival that was once necessary.

And more than anything, the way back to yourself.

 

This programme wasn’t built from one training or method. It came from life. From what I needed and couldn’t find anywhere else.

 

I trained in psychology, coaching, trauma therapy, energetic work and somatic approaches. I joined countless workshops and advanced trainings. Always searching for answers. But nowhere did I find the key that helped me truly break free from the cycle of codependence.

 

The real change began when I stopped looking for more knowledge and started listening to my body.

That’s when I discovered something no training had ever taught me. That deep healing doesn’t come from theory, but from lived experience. Not from single insights, but from grounded support, nervous system regulation, repetition and softness.

 

This is what I’ve shaped into my own programme. Not a collection of tools, but a deeply attuned journey from the inside out. Grounded, embodied and created for people who are truly ready to free themselves from the roots of codependence.

 

I’m not a nine-to-five coach. I know that triggers don’t work office hours. Especially in the beginning, things can surface when you least expect them. And that’s when it matters to have a space that’s there for what’s really going on, even between sessions.

 

Below you’ll find clear answers to some of the questions you may have right now.

And if you’re still unsure, you’re very welcome to reach out. I read everything myself and I’d be glad to think it through with you.

Frequently Asked Questions

Understanding Codependence

 

 

 

1. What exactly is codependence?
Codependence is not about making 'poor relationship choices' – it's a deeply ingrained survival mechanism that often begins in childhood. In an emotionally unstable or unsafe environment, you unconsciously learn that:

• Your feelings and needs matter less than those of others.

• Love and approval must be earned by pleasing and adapting.

• You must constantly scan for how others feel, and what they need, to 'keep love'.

These patterns continue into adulthood and show up in relationships, friendships and even work. But it is possible to break free from them.

 

 

2. Not sure if you are codependent?
Do you recognise any of the following?

• Struggling to set boundaries and feeling guilty when you say no.

• Taking responsibility for other people’s emotions.

• Constantly adapting to avoid rejection.

• Feeling drawn to toxic or emotionally unavailable partners.

• Chronic self-doubt and overthinking your own behaviour.

• Feeling empty without external validation.

You might call it sensitivity, caring or empathy. But underneath, something deeper may be going on.

Feel a sense of recognition?

 

Take the free self-test and get immediate insight into your patterns.
Free Self-Test – Am I Codependent?

 

 

3. What if I choose myself and my body starts to panic?
This is a common experience. When you start setting boundaries or choosing your own wellbeing, your body might respond with tiredness, panic, physical symptoms or overwhelm.

This isn’t weakness. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you. For years, it has associated safety with adapting to others.

In this programme, we don’t push through these responses – we meet them. Step by step, you will learn how to offer your body a sense of safety, grounding and calm. Even when it feels difficult.

 

 

4. What makes this programme different from regular therapy or coaching?
This is a somatic, deep and transformational process. We work with:

• Nervous system regulation: learning to feel safety in your body.

• Rewiring the limbic system: unlinking unsafe love from attachment.

• Inner child and inner teen work.

• Practical guidance on boundaries, emotions, self-care and connection.

Not just loose conversations, but a grounded and integrated journey.

 

 

5. Is this programme only for people in a relationship?
No. Codependence is not about your relationship status, but about your relationship with yourself. Whether you’re single, in a relationship or recently out of a toxic dynamic – this work starts with you.

 

What if I’m still in a toxic relationship?
You don’t need to leave before you begin to heal. We first focus on what you need most:

• Strengthening inner safety

• Learning to feel boundaries

• Gaining emotional clarity

• Calming your nervous system

From there, the clarity to choose what’s right for you will come. Not from fear or panic, but from calm, awareness and strength within.

 

 

6. What if I fear I’ll never experience real love?
That fear is valid. Codependence often confuses tension with love. In this programme, you’ll learn to recognise and feel healthy connection again – love rooted in safety, not survival. And that begins with you. With offering yourself what you so naturally give to others: respect, gentleness, space and loyalty.

 

 

7. What if I shut down or feel overwhelmed during the programme?
That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means your system is doing what it’s always done: protect. But this time, you don’t have to run. The safety and structure of the programme helps you move through it.

I don’t work per loose session, because deep healing needs stable support. You are allowed to hesitate, retreat, feel everything that comes up. But I invite you to stay. To not abandon yourself again. You don’t have to do it alone.

 

 

8. What if 16 weeks feels like too much right now?
Then you can start with the 6-week pre-programme – a gentle, grounded space to reconnect to your body and system.

• Energetic sessions tailored to your nervous system

• Clarity about what’s happening in your body

• Building regulation, calm and trust

• Practical tools for emotional safety and relaxation

This step helps you feel where your tension really lies and grow from there, at your own pace.

 

 

9. What does the 16-week programme look like in practice?

• Weekly 1:1 sessions (in person or online)

• Session length: approx. 90 minutes

• Support and guidance between sessions

• Exercises and reflections tailored to your process

 

 

10. How soon will I feel results?
Everyone moves through this process at their own rhythm. But many notice shifts within a few weeks: more inner calm, greater emotional clarity, and the first sense of "this is mine – and that no longer is."

By the end of the 16 weeks, most people feel:

• A stronger sense of self-worth

• Less dependence on external validation

• A deeper connection to who they truly are

 

 

11. What if I’ve already had a lot of therapy?
Many of my clients have a long history with therapy or support. But talking alone doesn’t resolve deeply wired survival patterns.

That’s why we also work with the body, the nervous system, the brain and your energetic imprint. It’s not just insight – it’s integration. And that’s what makes this programme different.

 

 

12. Can I get support after the programme?
Yes. You can continue with follow-up sessions or a tailored follow-on programme. Some people feel complete after 16 weeks, others want to go deeper. Both are welcome.

 

 

13. What if I need to miss a session?
No problem. We’ll reschedule together. This process is shaped around your life, not the other way around. The support remains strong and clear, even when life gets in the way.

 

 

14. How do I know if this programme is right for me?
We always start with a free clarity call. In that call, we explore:

• Where you are in your process

• What you need

• Whether my approach feels right for you

This isn’t a quick fix. It’s a deep and lasting process. But if you’re ready to feel, explore and truly choose yourself, then this might be your next step.

 

 

15. Are the sessions confidential?
Yes. Everything you share stays between us. You are welcome to arrive as you are, without a mask. This is a safe space, with no judgement, and full respect for your pace, vulnerability and story.

This isn’t a quick fix. It’s a powerful step towards lasting inner freedom.

 

This programme isn’t about surface-level solutions. It’s a guided, in-depth process that brings you back to yourself. A journey where you don’t just gain insight but learn to feel, to break through and to anchor lasting change.

 

Your willingness to slow down, to feel, to truly look at what’s there is the key to real transformation.

 

Over these 16 weeks, you’ll learn how to calm your nervous system without needing someone else to do it for you. You’ll start to feel your boundaries, honour them and stand firmly within them. And you’ll begin to release the patterns that once pulled you into toxic dynamics time and again.

 

But true transformation begins when you apply what you’ve learned. Not perfectly, but with steady commitment. Day by day. Step by step. You’ll build a foundation. You’ll learn how to hold yourself. You’ll find inner calm that no longer depends on external approval.

 

You’ll begin to attract healthy, equal relationships and recognise old dynamics with clarity and ease. Most importantly, you’ll begin to build a loving, reliable relationship with yourself.

 

Codependency is not your destiny. It’s an old programme that can be rewritten. And you have the right to choose something different.

You deserve a life where you no longer have to prove your worth. Where you no longer lose yourself but come home, again and again, to who you truly are.

 

If you feel it’s time for something to truly shift, take the first step.

 

Book your free clarity call and explore whether this programme is right for you.